I have a HUGE problem. A problem, it seems, only my family is experiencing.
My son is 7 (going on 17) and have been nagging us to play XBox games that he knows is not for his age. My husband is currently playing Hitman and no, not when the boys are awake. He plays it at the late hours of the night. (He is a grown man and can make his own decisions, I am not his mother)
My problem is that my son is insisting on playing the Hitman game as well, at first I thought it was because his dad is playing it, but he knows the rules in our house about age appropriate viewing and I was starting to get annoyed with his insistence. This morning on our way to school he dropped the bomb on WHY he has been asking. The other boys in school has been mocking him because he is not allowed playing adult games at home. They apparently play Hitman, Call of Duty and Titan Fall at their homes.
To give you an idea I follow the site http://www.commonsensemedia.org and this is what they have to say about the above 3 games:
Call of Duty: Age is rated as 18+ (Superb but violent shooter is definitely for adults only.) Violence, Language, drinking, drugs and smoking is prevalent in this game. “Parents need to know that Call of Duty: Black Ops is a very violent military-themed first person shooter in which players use a wide variety of weapons and explosives to kill hundreds of enemies in the campaign and countless more human-controlled avatars online. It features violent interrogations, graphic melee combat, and lots of blood. The visceral nature of the action combined with its complex Cold War narrative leave little doubt that it was designed for an adult audience. It is not appropriate for children. Note, too, the online portion of the game supports open voice chat, a feature that Common Sense Media does not recommend for pre-teens.” What is interesting is that parents rate it as age appropriate 12+ & kids rate it as age 12+ (I don’t know what to say to this, but I think they seem to think it is ok because YOU CAN TURN BLOOD, GORE, AND LANGUAGE OFF IN THIS GAME)
Titanfall: Age is rated as 18+ (Manic, violent multiplayer combat game lives up to hype) Violence and language is prevalent in this game. “Titanfall is rated Mature for its intense violence, blood, and some gore. Players can shoot and kill other humans in a near-future war-like environment, using a number of weapons including Titans — giant robotic suits — to destroy the enemy. It’s a multiplayer-only game, too, with no filters or moderators to curb profanity or other inappropriate words or phrases.”Parents rate it as age appropriate 12+ & kids rate it as age 11+
Hitman The complete first season: Age is rated as 18+ (Violent, tough, yet creative episodic stealth-action game.) “Parents need to know that Hitman: The Complete First Season is a stealth-action game that casts the player as a highly skilled assassin tasked with killing specific people by any means necessary. This can include taking out anyone who gets in your way or anyone you can use to reach your main target, though you can just subdue them if you chose. Besides using guns, explosives, poison, knives, explosives, and choke holds, players can also wear the clothes of people they’ve subdued, and so doing leaves those people in their underwear. There are also times when background characters talk about cocaine or are shown holding drinks, but they never consume either of them. Characters use such curse words as “bitch,” “f–k,” and “s–t” and sometimes make suggestive comments. The game has a complicated control scheme and high level of difficulty, so some gamers may be frustrated with the tricks and hazards of each mission.”
With all of the above taken into account and seeing words like “violence, language, drugs, smoking, kill, manic, blood, gore, cursing, suggestive comments, frustrated gamers, cocaine, “bitch”, “f–k”, and “s–t” how can I in my responsibility as a parent to my child allow him to be exposed to this. How can any parent allow it??
Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” This makes complete sense and has been proven over and over, my own husbands testimony is based on the fact that if he was not raised with the Word (bible) being, even if forced, onto him, he would never have known the truth that set him free. So if we as parents in the society think that it is ok for 11+ year old children to be subjected to the above then what future are we creating. As it is children are killing in schools, you may say (not in my school), but silent killing of the spirit is the worst of all.
My son gets ridiculed at school because he is not allowed to play these above games. He gets forced to ask us, his parents, over and over to allow him to play these games, because otherwise he gets shunned by his peers (7 year old kids remember). When will games no longer be the only thing I have to worry about, soon he will be told to drink with them, smoke with them, do drugs with them…
How do I protect my child in the serious things, when the parents of my child’s peers wont protect their children even in the small things?